Thursday, September 20, 2012

Baby and Other Blessings


30 weeks yesterday!  Cah-raaazy!

I need to remember to post my 28 and 30 week pictures.  I’ll get to it this weekend, I promise.  I WILL become a more consistent blogger.  I will! 

In the meantime I have truly been amazed with how many blessings Husband and I are receiving right now.  The most obvious one being that we are having a healthy baby and a healthy mommy to boot.  I don’t know if I’m missing asking important questions to my OB or if I really am having an awesome pregnancy.  We finally got the heartburn under control.  Omeprazole is now my best friend!

I am at the University Hospital quite a bit for work and I see SO many pregnant women hobble down the hall towards the OB clinic and they look MISERABLE!  I can’t help but think, “oh please don’t let that be me when I get closer to delivering”.  For the most part I feel good.  But I’m sure that will fade the closer I get to our Little Lady coming.

The other blessings I have been amazed at receiving have mostly been financial blessings.  Here are a few examples: 
1)   We have been a customer of a business for a couple of years now and we are almost done paying off what we owe them.  However, during a conversation with them a little bit ago about our last payment being in October, the representative mentioned that they found we owe $850 in fees that haven’t been paid over the last two years.  I was heartbroken.  That is money we need for the baby.  But, if we owe it, we owe it.  About a month later I was talking to the representative about a couple of other things about the account and I asked him about the fees, where they came from and I told him that I thought we had been paying the fees the entire time.  He said he’d check into it.  Well, not 15 minutes later he called me back and let me know that they re-calculated everything and I HAD been paying the fees the entire time so I wouldn't owe the $850 any longer!  I told him I loved him.  Ha ha.  I could tell he was genuinely happy to be the bearer of such great news and he told me to go buy a crib with the money we are saving.  I will thank youand several other things with that amount of money.  

2) Husband received a bill in the mail from his doctor’s office for $275.  What this bill was for, no one knew.  I figured it was whatever the insurance didn’t pay.  I paid part of it, as I couldn’t afford the entire amount at once, and planned to pay it in full with monthly payments.  One day I happened to be looking at what our insurance covers (am getting prepared for baby) and I noticed that the type of doctor Husband had seen was COMPLETELY covered.  Hmm.  I walked upstairs (as this doc’s office happens to be in my office building) and asked what the fee was for.  It happened to be a “no show” fee, which the insurance obviously doesn’t pay for.  Dang.  Well, I did a little digging about the date of the no show and talked to the billing department.  And come to find out, Husband HAD attended the appointment.  He was just 15 minutes late and someone marked him as not having shown up which is why we were charged.  The manager reversed the charge that day, so we no longer had to pay the $275.  Oh, and about a month after this was resolved, we got a check in the mail for the money I’d paid toward it, that was a nice blessing. 

3)  I received a check in the mail from Merril Lynch randomly one day.  Come to find out, while I was working at Macy’s, some of my paycheck was being added to a 401K for me and as it wasn’t a lot and I was no longer employed at Macy’s, they cut me a check for my portion and sent it my way.  Random money is very nice when preparing for a baby.

4) And nowfor the BIG blessing of late.

I don’t know if you are aware, but Utah does not have good maternity pay laws.  You’d think they would as they are the baby making capital of the world, but they simply don’t.  And because they don’t, Utah companies can make up their own maternity policies. 

Here’s the scoop.  If a company doesn’t have “maternity pay” they will allow you to be out with your baby for 12 weeks if you qualify for FMLA (have worked at the company for a certain amount of time).  The only other potential for monies would come from Short Term Disability (STD) or Long Term Disability (LTD) which generally pays 60% of your salary while you are out.  Most STD or LTD kicks in after a week or maybe 30 days at the longest. No biggie. So I signed up for both STD and LTD to make sure I would have some money coming in with baby.
Come to find out, unlike most companies, the U’s STD doesn’t kick in for 90 days and the LTD 180 days.  And if you are out the full 12 weeks with FMLA, that time would be unpaid unless you had vacation or sick time available.  I talked to my boss about my stresses of the University’s STD and lack of maternity pay.  She informed me that even if the STD kicked in sooner, she had never known of anyone using it for maternity as she didn’t think that fit the U’s criteria for disability.  So I wouldn’t be able to use either disability pays (that I had been paying for over a year) with my baby, unless I had to go on bed rest prior to her arrivalwhich semi counts for maternity and I wouldn’t get any money until the 90th day anyway.  Needless to say, because their policy was awful, Husband and I were stressing about money.  I would like to be able to stay home for 12 weeks after our little lady arrives.  Going back to work when she is only 6 weeks old breaks my heart, 3 months seems a little less heartbreaking and doable.  And I HAVE to go back to work as I am the source of income for our family while Husband is finishing his school.  So, I pretty much told my boss that I want to plan to take the full 12 weeks, but realistically I might have to come back sooner because of monies.  Not cool.

Here is where the blessing comes in.

A couple of weeks ago, my boss stopped me as I came through the door of the office, “I have great news for you!” she exclaimed!  We sat down in her office and she told me that she was in a meeting the night before about the new vacation (PTO) policy the U was launching the beginning of October.  The University had reviewed their STD/LTD policies and had determined they needed a change.  As of October 1, they are going to do away with STD and only offer LTD.  With this change they will enroll ALL full time employees into the LTD program for no fee. The new LTD will now kick in after 30 days which will also now include maternity leave!  Hooray!  This means that the first two weeks I’m out, I’ll rely on my vacation/sick time I’ve accrued.  Then we’ll be paycheck - less for about 2 weeks (boo).  But then, we’ll be getting 60% percent of my salary for the remaining 8 weeks I’m home with my little lady.  We were stressing about saving enough monies for the entire 12 weeks (which seemed impossible) but now, we don’t have to save as much and I will be able to stay home for the full 12 weeks that FMLA affords.  What a great blessing!

The blessings keep pouring in, it is truly wonderful to know you have a Heavenly Father that loves you and blesses you for keeping His commandments.  I just have to keep remembering that when I’m uncomfortable at night and can’t sleep very welland again when our little lady arrives and she is perfect.

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Updates and Such



Note:  I don't know why part of this post has a white background. I tried to fix it to no avail.  Please just try to ignore it.  

It was established a long time ago that I am awful at blogging.  Awful.  And even now that I have something to write about, like having a baby, I’ve been a slacker.  I fear I am doomed to never become that blogger that makes it big because everyone is reading her posts and sponsoring herbecause uh, you have to actually blog in order for that to happen.  And followers.  You need followers... Which I only have a handful of.  The good thing is I didn’t set out on this blog trip with the purpose of having monetary success.  Phew.  Good thing indeed.

We found out we were pregnant on March 26th.  And announced it to our friends/family on Mother's Day, May 13th.  We found out we are having a girl on June 14th, at 16 weeks, through a study we are doing at the University of Utah (I pretty much just get extra ultra sounds which is awesome, and I will help pregnant women in the future with the data they gather).  Our official baby gender ultrasound was on July 5th at 19 weeks - they confirmed what they said on the 14th of June.  So girl it is!  


So Husband and I are having a girlwhich, I’m not gonna lie, I’m THRILLED about.  A boy would be fun, but as there is a massive shortage of females in my family, I was hoping we’d get a girl.  And we did.  Though, Husband will tell you that he has known for YEARS that we would have a girl first.  And I’m glad he was right.

A girl means pink. Dresses. Dress-up. Disney princesses. Dolls. Cats. Ballet. Makeup. And those are just the stereo-typical girl items.  If she is anything like me, it will also mean sports, bugs, rock-climbing, theatre, snowboarding, campingthanks to those five brothers of mine.  And knowing her fathershe will likely lean more towards the not-as-girly items.  But we’ll see.  There are some necessary girly things she must learn, and I and her aunties will teach her that.  I do know that each person has such a different personality regardless of parents, so, we’ll see what she what personality she has.   

Her personality!  Oh how I can’t wait to meet her and know what she is like!  And that is just one of the many things I can’t wait for.


So baby updates. 


I first felt our little lady the end of June.  I probably felt her sooner, but as this is my first baby, and I didn’t know what it feels like, I probably told myself my stomach was just making grumbly movements and it wasn't her, when it really was.  I know I felt her on June 21st.  We were in the car driving up to Seattle and I felt very distinct movement in the belly, which I know wasn't tummy grumblies.  It was crazy but awesome at the same time.  Now she moves around all the time.   She still isn’t so big that the movement is annoying, it’s just fun.  On August 16th she was kicking me quite a bit so I placed my hand on my baby belly and watched as she kicked my hand on the outside of my tummy.  It’s fun to watch the bumps on the outside and not just feel them on the inside.  That Sunday my mom was able to feel her kick as well.  Thus far she is most active when Husband is not around, so he hasn't had the opportunity to feel her yet either.  Sad.  I can’t wait until he can feel her.


I had the much dreaded "glucose test" this last week.  For those of you who haven't been pregnant this is a test most providers have you do during between 24 - 28 weeks.  For the test they have you drink a sugar solution that contains 50 grams of glucose. The stuff tastes like you are drinking straight soda syrup.  At the University of Utah they offer 3 flavors: orange, lemon lime and fruit punch.  You have to drink it all in 5 minutes.  You then wait an hour, and then they draw your blood to see your glucose levels.  The results of this test can be an indicator of gestational diabetes.  I have heard awful things about this test, well, about the glucose substance they have you drink.  I've heard that it is super sweet and sickening and that most women have a hard time getting it down.  So that is what I was expecting.  I chose the fruit punch flavor and took my first sip.  It wasn't that bad.  It was as though I was drinking Hawaiian Punch.  I had no problem getting it down.  I guess the dread was for nothing.  Though as I told my doctor that it wasn't so bad, she said, “you must have had the fruit punch flavor” which was the same thing the medical assistant said when I told her it wasn't so bad.  But they both said the orange is awful.  Ladies, word to the wise, if you have the option to choose fruit punch, do it.  


I've been feeling really well, just a little tired and I have awful heartburn (this little lady had better have a LOT of hair  if there is anything to that old wives’ tale).  I have been walking and swimming as often as I can to stay in shape.  I was going to do the Disneyland Half Marathon this weekend with my dear friend because I signed up for it way prior to becoming pregnant, but near the end of July my hip and back hurt quite a bit when I jogged and I decided I should probably pass this year.  Breaks my heart, but I wanted to do what is best for my little one.


So here are some of the baby bump photos.  I’m taking more this Tuesday at 28 weeks, so you can see the progression of the little lady. 


I'm a little dorky in some of these picks.  I blame being pregnant.  Ha ha.  

20 Weeks  



24 Weeks